The Understated Beauty In Embracing Our Flaws

by James Arq
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It’s easy to look at ourselves in the mirror and point out all our flaws.

Acne marks, chubby cheeks, stunted nose.

In a world full of petite models and picture perfect instagram feeds, it’s no surprise our generation is overly self-critical!

We’ve gotten so used to digesting extremely photoshopped images and carefully crafted narratives, that unachievable perfection has become the norm. We beat ourselves up for our flaws and justify it as trying to improve ourselves.

Besides, shouldn’t we strive for perfection anyway?

Perfection is a journey.

Extremely cinched waists or muscle defined bodies are not the norm. Perfect grades and knowing everything is not the norm. It takes hard work and dedication to get there, and it’s a journey unique to all of us.

They’re good to work towards and seek to achieve, but we cannot be overly harsh on ourselves for not achieving them immediately! Perfection is a journey, so cut yourself some slack!

There is beauty in our flaws

What we often fail to realize, is that perfection does not mean the complete absence of  our flaws. They are not mutually exclusive. You can be perfect and have flaws.

Our flaws are what makes us human, there’s a subtle beauty to them that can’t be replicated, and we need to start embracing that side of us.

In Japan, there’s a philosophy that embraces imperfection in objects. Vases and bowls with cracks are pieced together with gold to emphasize the beauty in their flaws. Compared to the millions of other seemingly perfect vases, they stand out.

Accepting our flaws is freeing!

Accepting our flaws allows us to focus on who we are and not on who we pretend to be. By boldly embracing our true selves, we are free from having to masquerade as people we really aren’t.

In turn, we are able to chase after improving ourselves and not just hiding our flaws. It’s truly liberating to not have to care about what others may think of us!

Flaws teach us humility.

When we truly accept ourselves for all our flaws and shortcomings, we strip ourselves off our ego and pride. Our flaws humble us, and makes us understand the human qualities we all share.

In turn, we are more accepting of others and their own shortcomings, we develop a compassionate personality. As we begin to give space for others to fail, we become less prone to prejudice and judgement.

Flaws remind us that at the end of the day, we are all human and we all make mistakes.

We should love ourselves.

It’s easy to set our eyes on who we want to be that we forget to appreciate who we are at the moment. We are all in a journey for perfection, and we all have our own pace unique to us.

There is no point in sulking over who we aren’t, instead, celebrate the things that makes us unique! Let’s love ourselves for who we are—not what others want us to be.  Let’s embrace the little things we’re insecure about, and accept that they represent our journey to perfection!

You are more than your flaws, and it isn’t something to beat yourself up about!

What is a flaw you’re working on overlooking? Share it in the comments!

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Fatima Sheikh March 31, 2019 - 4:30 pm

An outstanding article!
Especially loved the reference to the Japanese philosophy. I hadn’t heard of it before and enjoyed learning something new. It’s amazing how they embrace imperfections in objects.
So many of us out there need something like this to bring us back on track as we try to reach the level of perfection portrayed by other people and get demotivated by comparing ourselves to them.
Your article really helped me remind myself that there is more to our flaws than them just being flaws and how it makes us all unique.
Thank you for sharing such an important message with a mention of a fascinating philosophy.

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James Arq March 31, 2019 - 4:48 pm

Hey Fatima!
I’m glad you learned something from this article. The Japanese philosophy is actually called Wabi Sabi, and it’s definitely a unique way to look at imperfections.

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mae :) March 31, 2019 - 4:39 pm

This was written so perfectly! What i’m currently working on overlooking is my body 🙂

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James Arq March 31, 2019 - 4:49 pm

Hi Mae! We’re all a work in progress, and as we strive to improve we should also focus on loving who we are. We’re here rooting for you!

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